Say "Stop" in calm, matter-of-fact voice.

Stand in between the victim and the bully

Set Ground rules; say "I need everyone to stand here quietly--no talking"

Turn to child who has been bullied (victim) and ask: "Are you alright?" Use a soothing, concerned voice.

Ask defender to stay with victim: "Why don't you stand next to (victim). Thank you."

Turn to child who used bullying behavior and say: "I saw ..." "I heard ..." "It appears ..."

State your feelings about the behavior--"I am uncomfortable when . . ." "I feel sad when I see hurtful behavior."

©Paulie Velotta 2004