This short assessment is a great way to take stock of your communication style and its consequences. As written, this is appropriate for older youth or adults, including parents. However, the questions can easily be re-written to speak in the language of your group, whatever their age. Have individuals share in pairs or triads. Debrief by asking what new information or insight assessment offers.

1. The most important thing for me to have happen when having a conversation or discussion is…
2. In order to accomplish these things I…
3. Based on the way I communicate, I believe people perceive me in this way…
4. Most of the time, what I would like to communicate to people is that I am…
5. In discussions, I usually talk (more/less/same/don’t know) than the other person.
6. When having a conversation or teaching, I dislike it when people do the following…
7. I am most likely to become defensive when…
8. I am most likely to get into an argument or heated discussion when…
9. If I am involved in an argument or heated discussion and want to turn the situation around I do the following…
10. I feel that my most valuable communication skills and qualities are…

CRE Calendar Usage: 3rd Edition